Stanley Allen Kalodes, age 72, passed away peacefully on May 23rd, 2022 in Morristown, New Jersey. Stanley was born on May 26th, 1949. Born and raised in Queens, New York he attended P.S. 147, followed by one year at Andrew Jackson High School before transferring to the Food and Maritime Trades High School in New York City (Class of 1967). He continued his education attending the American Institute of Culinary Arts in Connecticut, obtaining a Culinary Arts degree. Residing with his wife and daughters in Newark, New Jersey from 1978 to 1994, he then returned to Queens for nine years. Upon relocating back to the Garden State in 2003, he lived in Little Falls. In 2014 he retired to Toms River. Most of his life was spent as a cook. He worked in various kitchens since the 1960's from his family's diner in Elmont, New York to the Gracie Mansion to the U.N., but throughout the years he was also a Pinkerton guard, Port Newark dockworker, construction worker, bakery deliveryman, and car salesman. He was a fan of music, muscle cars, television and movies. You could always find him at the grill during any family barbeque. He was a beloved father, grandfather, great-grandfather, and uncle. He was cherished by many. Pre-deceased by his parents Mary Elizabeth (Dudley) and Stanley "Steve" Kalodes, brother Thomas Michael Kalodes, sister-in-law Carolyn Bellina, and brother-in-law Eugene Bellina. Survived by his two loving daughters, Christine Hablitz and Corinne Lee Lagonigro, son-in-law Eric Hablitz, son-in-law Vincenzo Lagonigro, Jr., grandchildren Eric (Michelle), Tyler (Ashley), and Jenna Hablitz, great-grandchildren Kieran, Bayleigh and Kolton Hablitz, ex-wife Arlene Sieradzki, sister-in-law Rosalind Bellina, sister-in-law Barbara Kalodes, brother-in-law Richard Bellina, nephews Michael Bellina and Rich (Sue) Bellina, niece Lea Nicole Kalodes, great-nephews and nieces, many cousins, friends, and extended family. Stanley was one of a kind and will be missed, every single day, by all of us he leaves behind.
The family will receive their friends on Tuesday, May 31, 2022 from 4 to 8 PM at Gaita Memorial Home, 154 Newark Pompton Turnpike, Little Falls, New Jersey. A funeral service will be performed by Monsignor Mark Condon at 6 PM.
Richard Gray was taken into Heavenly Rest on Monday, May 16, 2022.
He was the son of Jack Gray and Colleen Galuska. Richard was born in Newark, New Jersey on June 4, 1984. He leaves behind two daughters, Julia and Kayla Gray, as well as a fiancé whom he has been with together for 16 years, Amy Belotti. He also leaves behind many loving aunts, uncles and cousins.
Richard was a peace-loving man who took care of his family while working for Unimac Graffic's Printing Company in Carlstadt, NJ for 13 years. On his down time, he enjoyed spending time with his girls in the great outdoors. Richie will be forever loved and greatly missed. May he now rest at peace.
A Memorial is in place to anyone who wishes to pay their respects on Sunday, June 5, 2022 from 12 PM to 2 PM with Remarks of Remembrance at 1:30 PM at Gaita Memorial Home, 154 Newark Pompton Turnpike, Little Falls, NJ 07424.
Fred Fucetola of Towaco, NJ passed peacefully on May 10, 2022; he was 93 (or in his 94th year - as he would tell you). He will be remembered for his infectious humor, his friendly demeanor and his signature cigar.
He was born in Newark, NJ and then moved to Bloomfield in 1958 where he lived with his late wife Dolores for 41 years before moving to Lincoln Park and then Towaco. He was the last surviving sibling of 10 having been predeceased by 7 brothers and 2 sisters. He is survived by his son Eugene and wife Rosanna, 3 grandchildren- Bryan Fucetola and Aimee, Danielle Trokan and Matthew, and Sean Fucetola and Megan. He was proud of and blessed to have 7 wonderful great-grandchildren; Addyson, Isabelle, Alexander, and Owen Fucetola, Gabriela and Natalie Trokan, and Giovanni Fred Fucetola. He is also survived by numerous nieces and nephews whom he loved dearly.
He was retired for many years from the family businesses owned and run by him and his siblings, including bowling alleys, a shopping center, and a construction company, as well as the Holiday Inn, Racquet Club, and Cinema Pub in Totowa.
He was a proud veteran of the Korean War and a member of VFW Post #5481 in Montville, NJ and a member of Taejon Chapter #170 of the Korean War Veterans Association. He was also a Freemason and member of Nutley Lodge #25 F&AM for over 60 years, as well as, an advisor of the Order of DeMolay for 40+ years where he was a recipient of the Cross of Honor and the Legion of Honor.
The family will receive their friends at Gaita Memorial Home, 154 Newark Pompton Turnpike, Little Falls, on Friday, May 13, 2022 from 4-8 PM and on Saturday, May 14, 2022 at 9 AM with Remarks of Remembrance at 9:30 AM. Interment to immediately follow at Glendale Cemetery in Bloomfield, NJ.
A life worth living - Robert J. Murray: 1926 - 2022
It is with a heavy heart, and in loving celebration, that we announce the passing of Robert J. Murray.
Many of us will remember gregarious Bob. Others, intellectual Bob. Still others, hospice volunteer Bob. Orator Bob. Science lover Bob. Political pundit Bob. Theologian Bob. Business Professor Bob. WWII veteran Bob. Gardener Bob. Pie baking connoisseur Bob. Taxist Bob. Philanthropist Bob. Deep sea fisher Bob. Emotional rollercoaster Bob (including both angry Bob and heartfelt Bob; he was Irish after all) and of course, his proudest distinction to all - "honorary Swiss" Bob.
Ironically, Bob Murray's inability to stay inside a box was the very thing that defined him best - particularly during his later years. As the decades passed, he became increasingly uncomfortable with comfort zones; whether in practice and theory. This was perhaps best encapsulated in his favorite Socratic quote...which he rephrased to something like:
"The more I learn, the more I realize how little I truly know."
That's why we were proud, but not surprised, when he earned the distinction of becoming Drew University's oldest doctoral recipient- as an 87 year old, bright eyed, spring chicken. This, not long after his wife did the very same.
If a love for learning was a passion Bob felt he could control, he'd meet his match in 1947. That was when he was introduced to Sophie, his wife of 68 years.
We never needed to ask why Sophie was the apple of his eye. It was all too obvious. He doted over her wit, her charm and most of all, her fiery independence. I can't count the number of times, moments after a clever joke, teasing jab, or a less than couth quip from Sophie, Bob's eyes would light up with joy. He'd shake his head in "disbelief"- and after a fit of giggles, he'd look at the rest of us with an expression that said, 'can you believe this woman?!' That was Bob speak for "I'm absolutely smitten."
Speaking of the apple of his eye, we'd be remiss if we failed to mention Bob's famous pies. They came from recipes passed down from his mother, forged in the furnace of his family lineage, and synthesized in his early years, growing up on the farm in Elmira, New York.
He made many varieties, but that apple pie...you'd have to taste it to believe it. It was only a matter of time before some of his grandkids petitioned to formally change his name from "Grandpa" to "Grandpie." Eventually, some of us just called him "Pie," myself included.
Just a few of Bob's other lifelong hobbies included gardening, deep sea fishing and reading the New York Times, coffee in hand. I'll always remember Bob in the kitchen, proudly donning a Swiss-made apron, carving up a turkey, cutting up a honied ham, or pulling those fresh pies out of the oven.
For nearly two decades, Bob volunteered dutifully for hospice. He may have been a renaissance man, but this was surely his truest calling. For eighteen years he sat by the bedside of dying patients- talking about their lives, sharing stories, and helping them find peace in their transition. He was perfect for the role. A gift of the gab, an obsession with theology and philosophy, and a genuine love for all walks of life. Could there have been a better fit?
Bob was born on Oct. 1, 1926 to Harriett and James Murray. He was predeceased by his brother, John and his sister, Mary Helen Keevins. The beloved husband of Sophie Flatz Murray, father to Danny, Liz, Katy, Tessie and Peter. Grandfather to Matt, Steven, Andy, Phil, Lauren, Becky, Carla, Markus and Hannah. Great grandfather to Ryan, Kellan, Molly, Evelyn, Madeline, Bowie, Charlie, and Lily, soon to join the party.
The person writing this is one of Bob's grandchildren. In my teens and twenties, I watched Sophie and Bob (otherwise known as Grahnny and Grandpa/Grandpie/Grosspapa) pour love into Markus and Hannah- our youngest cousins. When Hannah was a little girl, I remember how regularly Bob raved about her reading skills. He couldn't have been prouder. Hannah, you already know it, but Grandpa loved you to the moon and back. It was in watching this dynamic, that I realized consciously what I already knew viscerally. Sophie and Bob loved, and will always love all of us like that. And we love them too.
In the end, I have no doubt that Bob didn't end up getting answers to many of his deepest questions. Thankfully, he took comfort in knowing that life's secrets weren't his to decode...only to ponder. Like my Grandpie, I cannot say the meaning of it all. All I can say is that when I go, if I've experienced half of what he did, I will have a life worth living.
Bob is gone in body, but not in soul. His lessons will live on with us every day. Ultimately, I think that is his dream come true.
We'll love you always, Bob Murray.
Max R. Peterman, 92, of Woodland Park, NJ, passed away May 2, 2022.
Born in Englewood, NJ, Max moved to Woodland Park, where he has resided for 60 years. After graduating high school, Max worked as a Sheet Metal Worker for a few years before he enlisted in the United States Army. Max proudly served during the Korean Conflict from 1951 to 1953. Upon being Honorably Discharged from the Army, Max continued to work as a Sheet Metal Worker with Local 25 Sheet Metal Workers for 44 years, retiring in 1991.
Max and his family spent countless summers going to Point Pleasant and Wildwood. After retirement, Max enjoyed many trips to the casinos- especially Atlantic City. He also loved buying scratch offs for himself and others. Every holiday, without fail, Max would pull out a Bingo scratch off for each grandchild. He will be dearly missed by all.
Max is survived by his loving wife of 64 years, Loretta (nee Schlageter) Peterman, caring children, Ron Peterman and his wife Claudia, Steven Peterman, and Christine Podolec and her husband, Victor. Max is survived by his adoring grandchildren, Alyssa, Max, Miranda, Danielle, and Alex.
Family and friends are welcome to gather on Thursday, May 5, 2022 from 4 pm to 8 pm at Gaita Memorial Home, 154 Newark Pompton Turnpike, Little Falls, and on Friday, May 6, 2022 from 10 am to 11 am. Entombment will follow at Laurel Grove Memorial Park Mausoleum, Totowa.